Readers Reviews
- Hey Andrew - you have done it sweetie. You have captured an audience with a wonderful and engaging topic that gets to a hurt that we can all relate to. Your excerpts were great! Your extensive research has proven thorough and yes - very relative! I have been on BP for a while and you are the first favorite page I have ever chosen. You have really tapped into my psyche, heart, my soul. Keep writing - you are blessed in that department. I will check out this website from time to time and will also refer folks to check it out.
- Being honest, and this is not because I know you, but I really believe that you will do well with this book, you've also heard it from publishers/editors who have the experience to know a best seller when they see one. Like I said previously, I would honestly buy your book, because the majority of us have experience/being in this situation and have for years wondered why it ever happened the way it did. Their questions never answered and if you have done your research and from your own experiences, you can bring light to peoples' bewilderment and it will be successful; believe me. You write well. I'm impressed.
- You've done very well with your manuscript so far. Your subject is one that nearly everyone can relate to. Your writing flows. It's vivid, frank and funny. It connects.
- Andrew, I am loving the last chapter; but I want to know is why I am hearing and reading about a lovely female in this damn book and you haven't told me about her. Well I don't know how you feel about Helen but the letter she wrote you was very loving and heart-felt.
- WOW...very, very deep! So sorry you were let down so many times. I guess when you look, nine times out of ten you never get what your looking for. Taking this from a lesbian who only intrest are women...women can be very misleading and very complicated at times. Hardly ever do they really know what they want I guess that's why I'm still single and enjoying my "Me Time". Yes it can get a little lonely at times, but it keep you away from drama. Your story I loved bcuz everything you wrote about were true.
- I want to tell you my gut feelings, I am starting to see how this woman could be anyone and you could be any man, and this may be just an symbolic senerio. This is in fact true; not to take anything away from your situation or your pain.
- I think it will make a very good book, as I haven't heard of many books that discuss internet dating stories! It also appears to be very well written.
- I finished reading the first chapter. First of all, thank you for having volunteered at the World Trade Center. Now about the first chapter, my honest opinions are as follows (these are merely personal opinions, which are worth as much as "trying to solve algebra by chewing bubble gum"):
* It's has good premises
* It has conviction due to its highly personal nature
* It needs editing, some parts may not be necessary and there are spelling and grammatical mistakes, but then, this is a draft, no biggie.
- I can understand that you had been disappointed probably numerous times by women, however, the "bitterness" shows through very "loudly" in the chapter, which may hamper sales, especially when the majority of buyers of self-help type books are women. Best of luck!
- I enjoyed reading the sample chapter and the excerpts and well the facts are just the facts, undisputed. I was in a relationship that ended abruptly leaving me to wonder what the hell happened???? Anyway, the excerpts left me wanting more. So needless to say, I need to read your book.
- I LOVE YOUR WHOLE STORY LINE. WHAT YOU ARE WRITING ABOUT IS WHAT MANY OF US EXPIERENCE ONE TIME OR ANOTHER IN OUR LIFE. I THINK YOU WILL BE A VERY SUCESSFUL WRITER. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK! BUT I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HOW CAN I OBTAIN A SIGNED COPY OF YOUR BOOK?
- WOW, I am reading it now and actually sent it to myself so when I get back I can read more. The excepts from the book...it explains so much about how we grow up has a lot to do with the partners we pick and the miscommunication of all of us. Thanks!
- Put your hands together!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I might have had that same experience. I just got dissed for no reason... The punk doesn't even tell me why.
- I went to the site, and read the excerpts. Although, I feel some of the quotes are so true, there are others that I would tend to disagree with, but that's the point, isn't it? Get a conversation going, debate the issues. Very interesting subject, and I am sure so true to heart for a lot of the women that enjoy this site. Good luck to you, and next time ask me!
- I like the fact that someone decided to expose internet dating for what it is. I too have experience what you are talking about, and still asks the question what the hell happened. I had it happen to be me twice.
- The whole relationship thing it's so hard now a days. Remember when you would meet someone and say were going steady and that's what is was. Now you have to be very careful who you get involved with. Most times I find people tend to go on the I'll lie for now scene until I know where to go from here, but that just complicates things when feelings get involved. The excerpts caught me right from the begining. (It's very good!)
- The Excerpts: I especially enjoyed these as they were from my fellow sistas and they were so right on point, I have to admit, I am kind of new to the whole dating scene and the experiences and observations that they shared will definitley stay on my mind as I begin this journey.
- (In response to reading the Rebuttal Letter (Chapter XII)) -- Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa aaaaa Nelleyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!! U think u told er how u really felt Andrew? LOL! Good Lawwwwwwwwwwd!!! How da hell will she be able to look at herself! Pick up the phone Dammit! Not now, rat now!!!
- HI ANDREW!!!! I just finished listening to the radio interview and I just want to tell you that you did a FANTASTIC job getting your message
out there. You were verbally amazing, and that cackling laugh just had to go! But you, my friend, are a star. Keep up the good work!
- Mr. Benjamin, all I have to say is where can I buy this book? I have sent notes to every friend I have on BP. I thoroughly enjoyed this first chapter. I actually have a friend that is going through this right now. Thank you for sharing.
- Andrew, I have to tell you that my face hurts from listening to your radio interview. I was really tired this morning when I read your first chapter. After listening to your radio interview I visited your website once again to read the first chapter again. I must tell you that your DO NOT EMAIL ME list still has me laughing. There is a brother on BP that has a similar list you might want to check out. I will send you his page information as soon as I can remember it. Please keep doing your thing because you have only cracked the surface of the 180 relationship situation.
- I read your sample chapter. I love it. Believe it or not this just happened to me. I'll be waiting for the book.
- Yes, I will support your efforts. I think this is a very interesting topic and I would like to know what happened? This definitely piques my interest cause it has happened to me. Good luck with all your efforts to get the word out about the book.
- Hi. I asked to add you to my friends list because I went to website and enjoyed the excerpt from your book. I also emailed it to a few of book reading friends. Your bio from your page was okay, it was the fact that your an aspiring author and I love to read and support anyone that is headed in a positive direction.
- I had a chance to visit the website. The first thing that caught my interest was the style in which it was written. It was full of humor, but spoke the truth. I couldn't stop reading it because there were numerous points I agreed with. I'm a no-nonsense type of person and could relate to a lot of the "do not e mail me's" as well. And it's quite the discussion piece. Any idea of a release date? I would gladly purchase it when it hits the bookshelves.
- First I want to applaud and commend you for your assitance during the 9-11 crisis. I like the way you keep the reader interested by doing what I would call a "play-by-play". Not jumping around, just exactly what happened and why you feel it happened that way. I would have liked for you to get more information from the "Cute Headcase" as to why she was even on here, when she obviously had a plan. What was her angle? What was she looking for really? When I read your profile, I laughed, because you definitely made it very clear what you wanted, and what you didn't want. The way you end it leaves me wanting more, which I am sure that is what your intention was. I thoroughly enjoyed it, and I wish you the best of luck.
- What caught my interest of the book is the true facts, when I was young and did not know what I wanted in life, I use to do the same bullshit. Not only that I was laughing saying darn , this sounds a lot like me when I was in my 20's.
- I WILL DEFINITELY SUPPORT YOUR BOOK. FROM THE READERS REVIEW, I CAN TELL THAT YOU DEFINITELY PUT YOUR HEART INTO IT...SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE A GREAT PASSION FOR WRITING...ALTHOUGH, IT WAS BASED ON PAST EXPERIENCES. GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
- I read what happen to Andrew I found it very informative, what I did read. But I don't let things get to me like that anymore. Someone once said that certain people only come into your for a season. That means that is was only for that time. Anyway I am going to look for your book. and I passed this along 2 my sis ers, godsister, daughters, and nieces. Thank you for inviting me to read your article as far. --
When I stated the word informative I was talking about your book. However, I did go over your website and that 2 is informative. So that means that you r a positive person. When I stated that people come into your life for a season it could have been (1-3) years. I myself just went through this and at first I wonder WHY, WHAT DID I DO? There was not anything that I didn't do because if he did have I was there 2 pick up the slack. I gave him 80% when he was only giving 20%. GOD BLESS AND KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.
honestly im truly impressed
- To be honest, I wish I could have read some of those comments that you received to your question becuase I am one of the ladies that went through what you went through and trying to figure out still today damn what did I do wrong, but be myself. But being myself is what attracted them to me. I just dont get it.
- VERY, VERY INTERESTING. I'M PRINTING OUT THE EXCERPT. JUST STARTED
READING AND IT'S INTERESTING, INDEED. I WANT TO BUY THE BOOK WHEN IT
DOES COME OUT. BEEN BOTH THE DROPER AND THE DROPEE.
- The book was honest, open and to the point. I was in a situation, actually I was married for 7 years and all of a sudden he declares that he is leaving because I am white and I don't understand black men. You tell me "What the Hell Happened to Cheryl?
Yes I would buy the book as knowledge is power and yes I believe it will be interesting reading for many so therefore I do believe it will sell. - I read the whole introduction. This is so true, looking at bp I become overwhelmed. I do hope you find someone that will make you happy.
- Please let me know when your book hit the shelf. I am going to buy it and I wish you all the best! I wanted to send you an email on Blackplanet but sadly my tubes are tied. You are going to make some lady very happy it appears you will be a great husband also. Be Blessed!
- AIIGHT...I PLUGGED U IN AND LINKED THE SITE OUT TO MADD PEOPLE THAT I KNOW. PS.: BTW, I AM VERY PROUD THAT U BOUNCED BACK AND ARE HEALING/PRESSING ON...GETTIN OVER IT!
- I love it!!!!!! You are clear and to the point, there are so many people on BP that are fake and out to try and get what they can get. I am happy for you if you have found someone that makes you happy and is there for you my prayers are with the both of you.....maybe my soulmate is around the corner. I can not wait on the book, please keep in touch and let me know when it is out.
- Andrew your Web site is what caught my attention. I love that you are so honest and are able to express yourself. I have begun to think that there really isnt anyone who can. It is so nice to know that there is!
The interview: Was wonderful...first of all to put a voice with your pic was very nice:) It made me think about some of the things I have been going through, and have been through. You were very well spoken and were to the point and made me want more!!!! I will be telling a couple of my friends to pay attention to what you have to say. I am so glad that I am able to be aqainted with you ,at this point in my life, I really needed to hear alot of what you had to say and have written.
- Hello Andrew, how are you? I got a chance to read the Chapter last night and I must say, "very Very Good!" I can't wait for the next chapter. I'm curious to find out what happens next and how do they go about it. Once again, real life women issues, we can relate! So what now! Curiosity is peaked, what's your next move? Write back soon.
- I just wanted to say your book seems interesting and I liked what I read so far on the sampling page. I hope when the book is available, I get to read it from Japan.
- I just had to say THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for posting your page and bio they way you did...I almost wanted to copy/paste everything you said and put it on my own paget. YOU truly speak the truth so I had to respond...again...Thank you for keeping it REAL and restoring hope in my self to know that I am not the only one who thinks on this level...be blessed!!!!
I got your banner on my page my brotha. The book is the bomb...I love to hear a man's perspective. You got my vote for best seller...
- I checked out your sample chapter of What Happened to Andrew...? VERY interesting. It's a real life real time explanation of today's dating/relationship trends. It's a testimony of what adult dating feels like; tastes like and smells like. It is clear that you are able to express yourself within a relationship and have sound values that you won't compromise. I appreciate you and your work.
- What caught my interest about your profile is that a lot of people are going thru or have been thru or about to go thru relationships like that, usually because they chose ignore the signs. I'll check your book out, but I really dont need a book to tell me anything. I take the time to listen to what people say and then I watch what they do. People lie so much these days, that is so disrespectful. Lying is at an all time high, so many people are playing the so called game! It's so sad.
- So Mr. Andrew...you're looking for love, aren't we all? I decided to send you a note because I think your'e hilarious! I fit into the catagory of women you don't want to email you (lol), and you are handsome! But most of all, I want to know what inspired you to write your book?
- My friend and I were sitting around the dinner table sippin on some gin...trippin on your rejection letter. We realized that u forgot one other reason why women shouldn't email you...if u dont buy my book: do not e-mail me! Thanks for the laugh!
- It was very interesting to finally read your entire message on your page and I must say it is very staight forward and just about the plain truth. It is not everyday you get one person in the midst of so many who can just speak or in your case the truth. I enjoyed your page!
- Hi there...I just had to tell you how great your bio is!! I admire your tenacity! I think it's just great.... :)...but I just had to compliment you on your page!
- I read your page and I do follow in one of your many listings, but I was compelled to send you a note. It was well done and wish to compliment you on your skills.
- Love your page...You might need to teach some of these other guys how to be that honest and direct.
- Your personal message was so real and down to earth that I had to read it to my mother! I loved the fact that you are real and to the point...but put a lil bit of humor in it. I wish you all the luck in your quest!
- (Referring to the book being published.) AWESOME! I will be one of your first customers.
- I think the 9/11 is the best part to me, it shows a togetherness, people forgot if just for a moment they forgot about them and there problems of what they thought was a problem and took time to help...if only for a moment. Your pictures are beautiful.
- I have never seen a brotha that can organize his feelings and express himself as eloquently as you. That is refreshing, although the topic isnt very positive. However, it is a topic that should also be discussed. Good luck with your book and the publishing. I will most definitely get a copy when it comes out.